Crying about it is just silly. It's part of the mechanics of the game and it's not hard to work with it. Long story short, it is what it is, it's not hard to work around and be an effective Mage. I've played both sides of the mage/melee fence for a long time and if someone dies A: They got one shotted and it couldn't be helped, B:I was watching TV and wasn't paying enough attention if someone changed gear. If people get frustrated take a few moments to have a little pride in what you do in game and get a little better by learning how to work within the current game mechanics. Learning to get better at a game used to be part of the fun but maybe I don't get kids these days

I'll say it again if blinking makes you a horrible healer play something different instead of shaking your fist at SE over something silly. Save your fist shaking for something good like Walk of Echoes.