Marada, go to Community -> General Discussion. There's a thread called "A Suggestion From The Pet Job Community: Stop Ignoring Us and Listen To Our Plea." Check it out and contribute your comments so that pet jobs will become balanced and accepted into more content!
Don't give up working on PUP (I love the job to bits myself) but don't expect to get into much endgame on it at all unless you know some friends that can work it in. Even if you have the mythic and Divinator, the automaton cannot hold a candle to difficult content (same goes for wyverns, avatars, and jugs also). It's not your fault, nor is it just on your server.
As for reforged gear, the only thing I tp in is Foire Tobe +1, and that's really only because I never got the Otronif body from Skirmish so it's the best I have for that slot. The rest of the AF/relic reforged pieces seem better suited for mix & match pet builds for various solo endeavors, depending on your automaton frame.