Not this again. Short version;

FFXI is easily the best balanced game for PvP. No, your WAR won't kill a RDM. But once you start getting into bigger matches, using items you find with /quarry (Lethe comes to mind which dispels buffs someone might have on) it becomes a lot more fair. Keep in mind you don't have to KILL that annoying RDM on the other team, or the WHM, or the BLM, you just have to make them either run away due to being paralyzed, silenced, or having their buffs stripped, while your own team ganks someone who was caught by Gravity, Bind, Stun, etc.

In the end, there's no way to fix this. It's obvious the FFXI community is anti-pvp for whatever reason while the pro-pvp people are spread thin amongst the servers. Only solution I can see is to have a server designated for PvP. Either one we can access via the current Ballista NPC's or by server transfer. I prefer the first option.