need to find and join one of those LS's that has been arround for over 5 years and still going strong, with a large membership. Problem, most of the good ones expect players to be regular contributers, and if you aren't they get rid of you for someone who is. Also, continued absence usually puts you solidly at the end of the line if more than 1 member wants something, but that's only fair if you aren't there doing the work (and alot of the grind IS work).

So good luck; I'm not on your server so I really have no idea of the good social shells there.