More Populated/helpful server

[Draylo]

You wasted your time trolling and typing this clutter of troll sauce. Nothing you said applies to me. If you want to lecture someone you should just get a kid. Your post wasn't helpful or informative. If I had someone to duo with, I wouldn't be debating a server change. Could you please post a video of yourself soloing Treasure of aht urhgan mission 44. So, that I can better myself.

It's actually soloable by BLU atm.

[Deathbeckons]

lakshmi PJ troll reporting in!
having trouble with the social aspect of a social game?
bad story, bro.

[Greatguardian]

Before GreatGuardian all the posts were positive post that actually were on topic. My OP was about getting insight about other servers. Not about what people who are not me have done. Not about what you feel I should do. I don't have a chip on my shoulder, but you guys are acting like a person shouldn't need help on this game. As I stated, if GreatGuardian would solo Treasure of aht urhgan mission 44. Then, I would see his point about "If you can't solo something, improve yourself until you are able to." Who is this collective "we" you speak about? "So long as your attitude is one where you feel that you need people's help, you will not get it. We don't like that attitude."

My post was addressing the cause of your problem rather than the symptoms, and is far more relevant than any insight about particular server quirks. This same issue has been brought up countless times on these forums, particularly in the "newbie" sections, and the answer I gave you has always been the generally accepted correct answer when it comes to enlisting aid from others.

ToAU44 was, ironically, something I didn't even fight. A friend of mine threw my afk-monk against Alexander while I was doing homework, cast a couple cures from his character, and won. It's pretty darn soloable by BLU though, just ask Draylo. I'm sure I've even seen videos of him doing it.

Things I've solo'd before, though? Damn near everything short of AV/PW/JoL and new overworld stuff like Voidwatch/WoE. I solo'd all my elemental Avatar fights back in CoP, solo'd over 45 Jailer of Faiths at 75 cap, solo'd Despot and the like for money in 2007, solo'd damn near everything that was possible to solo and died trying against anything that wasn't. And you know what? Despite that, I have a huge friend network and know someone in damn near every Endgame linkshell on my server. My friends list is hundreds of people long. I have countless favors I can call in, and plenty of gil to my name.

So why do I solo so much crap? Why do I go out and solo my AF3 when I level a new job, rather than call in favors or ask friends to take time out of their day to help with it? And why, then, am I also able to go afk and do homework while a friend fights my ToAU missions for me? Why, then, am I also able to watch TV while a friend kills my Empyrean Pre-Trial NMs for me?

Simple: Because I follow my own advice. When my friends help me, it's because they want to help me. It's not because I ask for help, or bug them, or make them feel bad for not helping. I help them because I want to, and in turn they help me because they want to. I don't expect it, and I'm grateful for it every time. If I helped someone all day and never got anything in return I'd be fine with that. It happens sometimes, surely. Hell, it happens often. But the important thing is that I don't mind. I don't pressure people. If I'm friends with someone, I'm friends with them regardless of what shit we kill or whose items we snag in an online vidya game.

Edit: And yes, I'm not even joking. A good friend of mine went out and killed near all of my Armageddon pre-trial NMs while I was afk, including Bugbear Strongman and all of the VNMs. I won't pretend that my situation is average or even close to it. I have some bloody amazing friends and I'm damn lucky for it. But you know what? I probably wouldn't have them if I was any different than how I am.

[Rohelius]

My post was addressing the cause of your problem rather than the symptoms, and is far more relevant than any insight about particular server quirks. This same issue has been brought up countless times on these forums, particularly in the "newbie" sections, and the answer I gave you has always been the generally accepted correct answer when it comes to enlisting aid from others.

ToAU44 was, ironically, something I didn't even fight. A friend of mine threw my afk-monk against Alexander while I was doing homework, cast a couple cures from his character, and won. It's pretty darn soloable by BLU though, just ask Draylo. I'm sure I've even seen videos of him doing it.

Things I've solo'd before, though? Damn near everything short of AV/PW/JoL and new overworld stuff like Voidwatch/WoE. I solo'd all my elemental Avatar fights back in CoP, solo'd over 45 Jailer of Faiths at 75 cap, solo'd Despot and the like for money in 2007, solo'd damn near everything that was possible to solo and died trying against anything that wasn't. And you know what? Despite that, I have a huge friend network and know someone in damn near every Endgame linkshell on my server. My friends list is hundreds of people long. I have countless favors I can call in, and plenty of gil to my name.

So why do I solo so much crap? Why do I go out and solo my AF3 when I level a new job, rather than call in favors or ask friends to take time out of their day to help with it? And why, then, am I also able to go afk and do homework while a friend fights my ToAU missions for me? Why, then, am I also able to watch TV while a friend kills my Empyrean Pre-Trial NMs for me?

Simple: Because I follow my own advice. When my friends help me, it's because they want to help me. It's not because I ask for help, or bug them, or make them feel bad for not helping. I help them because I want to, and in turn they help me because they want to. I don't expect it, and I'm grateful for it every time. If I helped someone all day and never got anything in return I'd be fine with that. It happens sometimes, surely. Hell, it happens often. But the important thing is that I don't mind. I don't pressure people. If I'm friends with someone, I'm friends with them regardless of what shit we kill or whose items we snag in an online vidya game.

Edit: And yes, I'm not even joking. A good friend of mine went out and killed near all of my Armageddon pre-trial NMs while I was afk, including Bugbear Strongman and all of the VNMs. I won't pretend that my situation is average or even close to it. I have some bloody amazing friends and I'm damn lucky for it. But you know what? I probably wouldn't have them if I was any different than how I am.

Translation: I'm like so happy in my LS and server because like everyone knows me and i'm so popular and i can solo a ton of junk. What? Your like not happy...? That's like sooo weird you must be like some kind of reject and a bad person.

Now that that's out of the way...

Phoenix is a pretty cool place and well rounded in all those parts. The economy is not bad either.
the playerbase is very active and is always looking for stuff to do.
If your a good player there's a good LS for you.

[Greatguardian]

Translation: I'm like so happy in my LS and server because like everyone knows me and i'm so popular and i can solo a ton of junk. What? Your like not happy...? That's like sooo weird you must be like some kind of reject and a bad person.

Now that that's out of the way...

Phoenix is a pretty cool place and well rounded in all those parts. The economy is not bad either.
the playerbase is very active and is always looking for stuff to do.
If your a good player there's a good LS for you.

u jelly, bro?

On a serious note, it's almost as if you didn't read either of my posts in this thread at all.

How bout that.

My situation is far from normal, but you know what? It's a hell of a lot harder to make real friends who actually want to help you with things when you've got an attitude/worldview like the OP's.

You want the right attitude? It's not "I can't". It's "I Haven't". You waste energy by complaining about things you don't have, energy that you should be using towards getting those things. It's not always easy, and it's not always quick, but I'll be damned if it's not something people can respect.

I have absolutely no regard for anyone who walks into a shell and asks for help on everything. I have all the regard in the world for the man who sits his ass down and grinds until he has what he wants. That's the man I'll go out of my way to help. And frankly, I'm the kind of person the OP should want help from. I'm the kind of person with resources. The kind of random help I give my friends is of the "Hook up with 30M for a relic loan" variety.

[Rohelius]

Well the guy did say hes a returning player. Did YOU read that? maybe his friends are gone, and this new endgame LS unfriendly time is what hes having trouble adjusting to? but no, it cant be that right? lets pick at the bros personality and tell him hes a noob for not leveling one specific job to solo one specific mission in one BCNM.....

PS: i dont think your ready for this Jelly. :P


PS: Oh my god i just finished reading your post after i finished my reply.....

I can picture you saying that shit all the time.."I loan 30m to friends for relics" and idiots flocking to your ass because your so um.. "Cool" and "Awesome" lol....

[Greatguardian]

Well the guy did say hes a returning player. Did YOU read that? maybe his friends are gone, and this new endgame LS unfriendly time is what hes having trouble adjusting to? but no, it cant be that right? lets pick at the bros personality and tell him hes a noob for not leveling one specific job to solo one specific mission in one BCNM.....

PS: i dont think your ready for this Jelly. :P

Did you not catch the fact that my advice was geared towards making new friends? Or are you just being dense?

Nothing he's asked about has been something Endgame linkshells did in the first place.

[Zinato]

All Greatguardian is saying is the attitude is partially responsible for his success. His words are rather wise too, the point is the players outlook will greatly affect how they get help. I'm nowhere near in the position he is but, I try to keep a similar attitude and I've gotten by just fine. The people who are most likely to help you are friends, therefore how you make and maintain friends is important. As a slight sidenote, people do pay attention to players reputations too so don't think doing everything via shout will make attitude less important. Finally, nothing I've said is directed at the OP or any specific posters, more a statement on general advice for playing FFXI.

[Rohelius]

Here's some advice for new friends guy!!

#1 Make lot of gil.
#2 Loan to random people.
#3 Say you loan Gil to people.
yup i'm such an awesome person for sharing my genius.

[Rohelius]

Did you not catch the fact that my advice was geared towards making new friends? Or are you just being dense?

Nothing he's asked about has been something Endgame linkshells did in the first place.

Oh and just as a side note~
While endgame LS's never did missions, they do however have forums which their members use to plan events that aren't necessarily endgame related. The fact that the members knew the skill of the players in the forums was the charm of it all.