Yep. Completely hypocritical. Oh wait, no it's not. The server's haven't gone down just because of the disaster, they have gone down because in doing so they may provide vital energy needed to save lives, power resources and help speed up recovery.
If you put your own personal enjoyment over the well being of an entire country then you just might be a sociopath.
I also don't think anyone is claiming that if the servers weren't up that they wouldn't be playing, instead they are just stating that they are ok with the servers being down. I have done the exact same things I did with the Haitian earthquake, donated an amount of money and gotten on with my life. I am, unfortunately, powerless to do otherwise.
The FFXI servers aren't in Haiti. If they were, I would have been ok with them going down then too.