Stop Player Bashing

[Arcon]

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I love you.

Arcon the problem you and a lot of others fail to see is that you're not playing this game alone. If you are, then you should make this clear in every post that your opinion is subject to that. People ask others to gear properly for party situations - whether linkshell or pickup - because how anyone gears affects everyone in a party situation. To put it simply, wear what you want in the street, but when you go to church try to dress appropriately? If that makes sense.

That's true, that's why everyone should try to contribute and look out for others. This depends on your personal tolerance as well though, if someone's play style is making him a really terrible team player, then you should just replace them. Then they simply aren't fir for team play. However, if his personal choices just make him an average player instead of a good or great one, does it really matter that much? I guess it's a problem of drawing the line, if your survival was at stake because of someone elses play style, believe me, I know how annoying that is. But if it drops your EXP average from 25k/h to 23k/h, 'cause a WAR wants to use a polearm on colibris but is ill-equipped for that, is that worth getting annoyed over? Guess that depends on the player as well, personally I wouldn't care.

I love to try stupid things on my character, just for the sake of trying something new, even if I know it's worse than my current playstyle. But whenever it comes to party situations or any kind of collaborative effort, I play to the best of my abilities. I think everyone should try that, however I don't blame them if they don't. Everyone has a right to play whatever way they want. If it's really that much of a bother, they will realize that people won't want to team up with them anymore. And then it's up to them whether they feel the need to change around others or get used to playing solo most of the time.

Also, your calls for being nice are completely out of line. I am actually offended by you suggesting that I was being rude in my post, and I wish a moderator would step up and speak to you about that. I posted something that I found funny, and you are making me feel bad by implying that I was being mean. That's not fair.

While you're probably only being half-serious about this, I'll still give you a serious reply, because that's something I wanted to mention sooner anyway.

People often don't intend to be rude or offensive, but others interpret it that way regardless. Sometimes your intentions and other people's perceptions differ. Excerpt from the forum rules:

- Since you cannot see each other on the forum, your words may be taken the wrong way or may have a negative emotional affect on others. Please try to maintain a polite manner and review your entry before you post.

People often take things personally when they shouldn't. While this certainly isn't someone's fault for posting (and it's happened in here too), they should still try to put themselves in the reader's shoes and try to see what it may look like to them.

You may have only mentioned something funny, someone else may have taken it as you belittling their opinion or implying that they're stupid because you said "fact = opinion", which they didn't actually say, or imply, but you inferred from their statement. So to them it seemed aggressive and rude. You could brush that off by saying "your fault for taking it the wrong way", but as I said (and as it says in the rules) calm and civilized conversation requires both/all parties to think about others' feelings before posting.