if you're 30 you can already get into Aby (just need a few CS), 95 is at most 3 days away if you have decent time availability. Don't bother with AF, salvage or relic gear, just get the essentially free cruor gear (think mages is the Teal set); you'll have the cruor from just standing around. Sell drops to get your proccing spells, don't bother with the rest, you can quest those after you hit 95. Then find an Aby shell (if you haven't already) to spam NMs for your AF3 seals. You'll be at least as good as roughly half the mages running around these days. Gold chests drop LOTS of augmented gear that virtually noone uses, and it NPCs for 6-8k each on average. Forget anything you remember about hate management-everyone else already has. Don't worry about death, you can get back any lost XP at any level in 15 minutes max (and usually less than 5). You don't need to bother with food either, Atmas cover that. TBH, this game's currently on about the same difficulty level as Pong. It just requires ALOT more patience.