The magical secret to not giving a shit what people think about your gear:

Going to BG and learning how the game works, then applying that to your character - optimizing yourself.

Bam.

It's like magic.

When you're secure in your knowledge of the game, no one has shit on you.

Just be wary of pseudo-science and "information" from unconfirmed sources. Eyeballing is never an acceptable way to determine anything. The game really does work 100% by the math. Ignore statements without evidence. Ignore evidence without scrutiny. Most important, ignore anyone who comes off as a flaming retard who is unable to type coherent English sentences.

Before you know it, you won't give a damn what people think of your gear, because you'll understand the game and know that what you're wearing is what's best for your means - and more importantly, you'll be able to improve those means and get things done quicker, simpler, and more easily than before.

Suddenly, you'll be the one with the answers, and you'll know what it feels like to hear the same basic questions asked over, and over, and over again in an incessant tide of ignorance and "can't be assed"isms. You'll see basic information on the various wikis that took you 2 seconds to find, and you'll come to ask yourself again and again why people don't just check it themselves. Finally, you'll understand why people just aren't so helpful any more. Information is out there. It's easy to find. If you can't be assed to look up the drops from an NM on wiki, I can't be assed to Raise you.

Edit: OP is a super obvious troll so I'm not even responding to it. Hurrrrrrrrr