What exactly is wrong with the RDM AF3+2? It is covering your enhacing, enfeebling, sub-nuking, and (with the alleged changes in "Cure" formulas) healing aspects and needs. I'm pretty sure that RDM has been told by SE that those are RDM's role(s) within the game. If someone thinks that RDM is meant to solo VNMs and [A] HNMs, then they need to really reread your Job Adjustment Manifesto. They gave RDM's the "Temper" spell to throw those RDM's a bone.
SE has listened to you. You've all been shown your way as buffer/enfeebler/sub-healer/sub-nuker. Go level a melee DD-job if you want to be able to melee on a full-time basis.

At least you have an enhancement on your AF3+2 that isn't a random proc...