I will cure myself if I have to. I tend to be able to not need to. As for in parties/alliances, the WHM has enough DD's to worry about. If I'm stupid enough to pull hate and not use my job abilities then that's my fault. A large part of being able to play BLM is to understand how your tanks are holding hate and be able to cast accordingly. If there is a BLM that dies over and over again and complains about not getting cures, then I think that they need to understand how to play their job a bit better.