Was my leader wrong to do this?

[geekgirl101]

She took it out on me because I backed up what my leader was doing and told her that I was horribly confused and didn't understand why she was upset with us. She must've thought I was being a right <insertprofanitynamehere> and broke our friendship based on that. Really hoping I can work this out with her once she's out of /away status.

[Greatguardian]

Really it sounds like the person who's upset at you is the one being completely unreasonable.

EXP alliances are fairly worthless, and teaming up for lights is absolutely standard fare and not a huge deal. When everyone gets the same lights whether there's 1 person solo or 18 people around, there's absolutely nothing lost by sharing lights.

The only person even remotely at fault here is the original Alliance lead for not informing their replacement of the arrangement. The only slight that was made towards the new lead was a lack of advance notice. Leaving once you have what lights you need is perfectly acceptable. It is not like there were people lining up to take that party slot that would have stayed longer. And if there were, then your leaving would not have caused a problem at all anyways as they would have had people ready to replace you.

In a nutshell? Chick's spiteful and has anger issues. Absolutely not even worth trying to mend that bridge. No one did anything wrong. EXP is super serious business. etc

[geekgirl101]

You're right Greatguardian. I tried to get back to her, sent her a couple of tells through the day but got no response, finally sent her a message explaining what really went on. She finally gets back to me very aggressively telling me she felt she got used and didn't believe us and didn't care that the friendship was now over. That really wasn't how I wanted it to end.

This teaches me an important lesson, always double check when switching alliance leaders that the new one is fully aware of any special arrangements.

[Darkren]

is it that hard to cap your own lights?

[Runespider]

Building your own lights isn't even hard, he is lazy ***.

Douche isn't a bad swear word is it? D:

Douche means shower in French you know! I was just calling him a lazy shower!.. >.>

[Bubeeky]

I've been in several similar situations to this and it usually works out pretty well, several seperate groups get together so that everyone gets the benefits of the lights and TE, but each party is doing its own thing...only difference is that everyone in the alliance knows what's going on, so that's the only thing that I would say was wrong in this situation, that it sounds like the agreement didn't include the rest of the alliance.

PS. to the OP, you sound like a really nice person, so I would say don't worry about that other girl, the one that broke the friendship off...I'm sure you'll make tons of friends in game that will be bigger and better than that Good Luck

[Nawesemo]

I have an Opinion!!!

But No One Will Like It.

Friends don't get pissed off over getting left behind if they weren't able to participate meaningfully, and should understand.

Friends don't /blist other friends... they spam each others mailboxes, chat with ransom demands for apologies or your not getting your Okote back, fill each others delivery box with single unstackable items, stacks of crystals and randomly invite to D2 one another for Demeaning behavior like what you described.

Friends are Friends for a reason.. everyone else, well, is just everyone else.
sooooo yeah take that for what you will.

[Alhanelem]

You don't need an alliance to farm lights... what this amounts to is the EXP group was being used and abused.

[Nawesemo]

I dunno, I guess it just boils down to what kind of player you are, I've seen some pretty aweful GREAT players on jobs that are not their mains in exp parties, I've also seen players that refuse to let themselves be that GREAT aweful player, and skill and gear as well as their wallets and time will allow for the jobs before they exp on them.

There are those that 1/2 the effort, and 1/2 the gear gets them by and there is nothing wrong with that if that's how they roll and the can get by like that.. becuase lets face it we were all there at one point. but.. if you can't pull your weight by putting in the time to be able to pull your weight... ... ya know?

I think this is more along the lines of "I didn't get the 20 levels I wanted and only got 2" and being pissed about it.

My point in my comment above was.... would a friend really be all that worked up over a bit of free experience in an exp party ( becuase they did get "some") that as far as they knew .. broke becuase other people wanted to go do vnm and apparently they themselves didn't?

[Glamdring]

your alliance leader was an ass IF he didn't inform the other group that he intended to bail before he started. If he did, then yes, perfectly cool. There is nothing wrong with grouping with other players to farm your lights. Sure you can do it solo, and some jobs do it quite well. but if an alliance can get a group capped and 300+ minutes of time in 30 minutes why wouldn't you? You just need to have the understanding going in that that IS the plan.