Not sure if someone actually answered the OP's original question (to tired to read through all 8 pages right now), however killing someone who is charmed is not against the ToS. I probably still have the SS from around 6 years ago when we had some LS members camping Xolotl. There was a group that would also camp against us and when ever we got claim they would nuke us every time it charmed us ended up stealing a fair number of Xolotl from us and GM told us right out that killing a charmed character is not a violation of the ToS, it is a risk we take fighting a mob with that move at its disposal.