(goes back to read some older post that I made regarding tanks DPS and actual DPS) Good god that was my mindset at the time... so yeah, I started getting into FF14 during Heavensward when Final Steps of Faith and Nidhogg's Rage was considered relevant...
and I was one of the few people who got hyped for Stormblood... only to be disappointed with my main class/job balance adjustments(or lackthereof but that will be for another thread for another time) and realize that... tank DPS should always compensate for healer DPS...
but with the current gameplay of mechanics is towards casuals which is fine unless 1 casual wants to get into the harder content but doesn't like relying on PUGs clear since people will just say "you just got carried next time go play a different class or stop playing newb lololololollol" (generally these are the people who die more than the person who was still learning the fight who say that abeit it is an exageration) it really doesn't help especially if said casual also wants to clear the hard content in it original form, whether it be synced or no echo bonus/penalty to help make the fight easier(though the whole echo bonus thing is up for debate).
Since I play DRK, which is a tank, I should be able to not only hold aggro but also do damage that a DPS should be doing if healer DPS is doing "meh" damage at best but instead tanks are doing "meh" damage at best if they know how to do their rotation. And as a result of such imbalance, tanks should have full strength on their tank accessories instead of just 1/3 (1/2 if melded strength materia) as well as the "Enhanced Strength" traits that DPS have to go with the "Enhanced Vitality" traits that tanks have...
but everyone makes mistakes and you eventually learn from them or repeat the same mistakes... this is true for anything in general from cooking, fixing a car, etc., but if you still mess up then you realize that you are not cut out for the kind of thing you signed up for or you just keep trying until you get it right, just don't expect people to care because there are people who will put others down for feeling good because putting people makes them feels good(basically trolls in a nutshell)...
and with that said, BRING IN THE FEROCIOUS LOOKING TANKS THAT REVEAL TO BE SUPER KAWAII-DESU-WAIFUS-IN-MY-LAIFUS-I mean the constructive criticism...
EDIT: took some advice about spacing things out in sentences