Let me just try to say this as simply and nicely as possible. Using information to educate yourself is not going to deprive you of social interaction on your MMO. Knowing where you're going means people wont go "Why isn't this idiot learning this before joining the pick up?". Not everyone, But most. The best thing you can do, in FFXI, and Even in life, is to stop expecting people to speed feed you information because, and lets not dance around the fact, You're too lazy to look it up and feel like you're entitled to people feeding you the information.
No one wants to deal with "That guy" who does nothing but asks questions and gets upset when people tell him he can find the information himself. Not a single person on earth with enjoy continuously babying someone, and if they do, They're a horrible person. Nothing good can come from never giving people the tools to help themselves. In the long run, You're hurting them more than helping.
Asking a few questions is not bad, I know i've asked my LS something like "How far along in Voidwatch do you have to be to access Prov. Watcher Battlefield" > For two reasons - I was in a hurry to respond to a shout, and i know they knew, but 9/10 I'll look it up myself because Its not even about socially interacting, Its about learning basic things so you're not an annoyance to the group. Its common courtesy to not be "That Guy" asking everyone where to go, What <pos>, Whats the NM drop, How do i raise my level cap? Where do i go for this AF Quest? How do i complete it? Etc etc etc.
Badgering your LS and friends with questions you don't want to be assed to look up is not social interaction on an MMO, and thats the worst cop-out argument I've ever heard anyone say. For every question you research yourself, theres an entirely different sentence you could use to start a far less terrible conversation.
"Where do i go for this AF Quest?" turns into "This Quest is fun, You guys do _____ AF Before?"
"Whats the POS Of this fight?" Turns into "You guys do this before? Seems fun"
"Whats this NM Drop?" Turns into "I hope it drops XXXX, I've been after it for a while!"
"How do i raise my level cap?" turns into "Hey, Anyone need XX level cap? or bored to help? About to go do it!"
For every question you ask because you're too lazy to look up the information yourself, Theres another question you could ask that could lead to a better conversation for both sides. The excuse "Well excuse me for not looking it up because i wanna talk to PEOPLEZ" is not acceptable by any human logical standard.
So yes, Asking questions is not a big deal, every now and again, But being that guy who never looks up anything is no fun for anyone, and it makes you look bad, regardless of what you're asking or your reasons. It makes you look lazy, and it makes you look like you want everything spelled out to you, and it, sorry and I'm not implying any of you are - But it makes you look stupid.
Education does not deprive Social Interaction, Its breeds intelligent conversation.