Heh. I was adding further clarification to my post when you responded - I didn't intend to edit "after" you responded. Though the edit didn't change my position retrospectively, it is rude to do that in a conversation, and I apologize for that.
Unfortunately there is not a PM feature on these forums; that I am aware of, anyway.
Here are some resources related to the discussion, though:
Some definitions of Sex and Gender
Sex, Gender and Sexual Orientation
Sex, Gender and Gender Role
I would be happy to move the discussion elsewhere if you are interested, and I can provide several quotes from reference texts as well; but you are correct that this is not really the forum to digress into this subject.
Here we should be discussing how our automatons frustrate us, not real life. /grin